Not feeling completely content, are we? Hopefully, these 10 simple steps can help you on your journey to complete happiness, or at least a little happier TODAY.
I know it’s certainly helped me and these are steps that I try to incorporte in my life every single day. Here we go! Please let me know if this was helpful to you in the comments below. Always love hearing from you.
1. ELIMINATE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
I’ve suffered from FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), badly. And I used to surround myself with everyone, even people who made me feel lesser or bad about myself. BIG MISTAKE.
Why on earth do we do that? Because we want to fit in and we want everybody to like us because we are oh-so-loveable, right? We seek everyone’s approval. This is something that I have been struggling with my whole life, especially during my teens and my early 20s.
As I’m getting closer to the big 3-0 I’ve stopped caring. I have stopped giving a shoot about what other people think about me, and I certainly stay away from people who I know give me bad vibes.
My advice would be for you to do the same. I’ve learned a lot by doing so, and it has given me a much stronger sense of intuition and reading people. I just know. I’m creepy like that.
Use your time and energy on people you actually want to be around and that adds joy aka happiness to your life. This was a big one for me – total gamechanger.
Count your relationships by quality, not quantity.
2. WATCH TED TALKS
TED talks will save your life. Whenever you find yourself down in a ditch, a rut or just stuck in life, I swear TED talks are the things that’ll turn things around for you. Pop on over to YouTube and enter TED-world. Warning, you’ll be in there for hours.
I can go on and on about how amazing the concept of TED talks is, but I’ll save that for another post.
3. WRITE IT OUT
Every morning, just write for 15-30 minutes. It doesn’t even have to be that long.
10 minutes will do.
You wouldn’t believe how much creativity we keep inside of us, ideas that never come out and that we never actively take the time to get out of our systems.
These ideas are all hiding inside – so go get em. Even if it’s just gibberish – just write and it shall come.
Being a songwriter this really helped me when I was in a rut. I try to do this every day, with pen and paper, which is a lost art, but certainly the best way to do this.
Writing on a computer is not ideal, but works if you prefer that. And when the idea is in front of you – put the idea into action, become a #girlboss or whatever it is you really want in life.
4. BE BOLD! BE LAZY!
Be lazy for 1-2 hours every day, spend time with yourself, listen to music, whatever just lay there and be YOU.
It might sound “boring” but when do we ever just stop the madness and pause for a minute?!
No social media, no computer – a book is ok. Make sure you schedule some ME-time every day.
5. GET MORE SLEEP
Yes, queens. You heard me. The Zzz’s are so important.
If you don’t get enough sleep; not only will you be Ms. Grumpy without it, you will most likely not be as happy.
Try and get 7 hours of sleep every night. AT LEAST.
For example, I make sure I go to bed around 10 pm during the workweek so I can get a head start on my day, blogging, taking my time in the morning, sipping that beautiful coffee and make sure I schedule in some me-time.
Yes, I get up at 5:45 (ish) am every morning.
Getting up at the same time every day is key.
Don’t hit that snooze button! I am more creative and tend to be more productive in the morning as well. And let me tell you – getting things done before everyone else is up is quite satisfying aka makes me happy.
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6. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
It can be hard, but it’s oh so fulfilling once you’re out.
Just doing something new (and it can be anything) every day – taking baby steps that essentially will really help you on your way to achieving your goals.
Start by getting out of the zone.
7. EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT
Ok, this may sound a little crazy. And I don’t mean you should eat rubbish (aka sugar) all day every day, but as important as me-time is, this is also essential for being a little happier.
Allow yourself to have a couple of cheez doodles or two when you feel like it – that Mac n Cheese, bolognese with extra parmesan, fruit roll-ups.. or whatever it may be.
I cannot stress this enough! Indulge in something that brings you joy. But don’t go overboard.
For me, this is obviously chocolate. I try not to overeat (this is oh so hard) but I enjoy one piece of chocolate with my morning coffee or in the evening after dinner and my sweet tooth kicks in. Whenever possible, I switch up the milk chocolate for a little healthier option – the dark 70% or the very dark 86%.
However, we all know that one tastes as bitter as *** and really isn’t that enjoyable. So I tend to only eat the milk chocolate. I am weak, yes.
And this post isn’t about being healthy, it’s about being happy. We’ll get to the healthy stuff in another article.
8. LOVE YO’SELF
No, but in all seriousness. We should all get a little better at recognizing what we like/love about ourselves. Now I don’t necessarily mean appearance-wise.
- What do you like about your personality?
- What are your strengths?
- What sets you apart from everyone else?
- What is your secret?
We all have them but we don’t talk or think about them nearly enough. Approaching my thirties now and I am getting better at this. Loving myself for who I am. I cannot change a thing (unless I undergo surgery, which I am opposed to and which is so ridiculously expensive – why would you?).
Learn to love what we were given and embrace yourself. This is starting to sound like a real cheesy rant, but guys, take me seriously on this one.
It is crucial for having a happier life and it makes you feel GOOD. You are special. You truly are. Now write that down on a post-it and put it on your bathroom mirror if you have to.
9. CRY, BABY!
Listen to Jeff Buckley – Last Goodbye, or whatever song puts you in a nostalgic and beautiful mood and starts your tears from falling. You may think it’s weird I suggest you cry it out in a post about being happy. But don’t overestimate crying.
Sometimes all we really need is a good cry and crying it all out can be as effective as running it out. You feel refreshed, you’ll get over the underlying feelings (which we all have I am sure) that made you take to tears in the first place and you are ready to move on. Ah.
Fact: tears contain leucine enkephalin (try saying that one out loud), which is a natural painkiller and is one of the reasons why you may feel better after letting out down the waterfall.
It can feel so good, and sometimes it is highly needed.
10. DO IT THE MINIMALIST WAY
Let go of old belongings that you don’t need anymore and that does not add any value to your life. Watch the minimalist documentary and/or listen to their podcast.
It is so inspiring. Also, get rid of clutter around the house and throw it away. Sell clothes, furniture that you don’t want around anymore (hey, profit! $) Seriously, don’t be a hoarder.
BEFORE YOU GO
There you have it. The keys to being a little more at peace with yourself. I hope this guide gave you something to think about and that you are, indeed, a little happier now.
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