“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.”
– Audrey Hepburn
Introverts are awesome.
Introverts are thinkers, dreamers, imaginative and do’ers.
There should be no shame associated with introversion.
I am a proud ass introvert.
I’ve always known I was an introvert and quite a shy person. However, all through my 20s, I have for some reason, strived to be an extrovert because that is what we believe is best. Surprise! It’s not.
It’s only for the last couple of years that I’ve made peace with my introversion and escaped every single feeling related to FOMO, learned to say no and managed to stay clear of overwhelming social situations (or at least, as much as I can).
For me, there is pleasure or excitement associated with being around hundreds of people for a long period of time. I feel quite the opposite – drained, tired, exhausted and not myself (which is the worst). But enough about me..
So, let’s get into the perks of being an introvert..
The official definition of introversion goes as follows: A reserved or shy person who enjoys spending time alone.
Um, duh. Pretty straightforward, right? Let’s dig into the advantages.
1. CREATIVE DREAMERS
“I think a lot, but I don’t say much.”
– Anne Frank
Introverts tend to be more creative and dream a lot. I daydream a lot.
Daydreaming isn’t holding us back though. Introverts have big dreams and imagine the impossible.
We dream and believe things so hard that they end up being true. Our thoughts and beliefs are so powerful in this way.
For example, I remember when I was little, whenever we were going on long road trips or traveling, I would ALWAYS listen to music and imagine that I was on stage playing the Guns N Roses – November Rain solo (no, I don’t know why), or standing on stage rocking the lead vocals in an super cool (and punk – much like Lindsay Lohan in Freaky Friday) all-girl band.
Although all of this didn’t actually come true I did, however, end up releasing 3 albums with my band and have toured Asia 4 times.
I still can’t believe it.
But apparently, I must have. I must have dreamed and wanted this so much it ended up happening (even though Lindsey and Axl didn’t join me on this ride).
There is so much power in our introverted thoughts and dreams.
2. EMBRACE SOLITUDE
“I am rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds.”
– Laurie Helgoe
Introverts love to be alone.
It may sound strange, but as an introvert, I find so much joy in having the apartment to myself.
Truth be told, there is no greater joy than canceled plans.
Am I right? It may sound crazy, but it’s true (in some cases).
As introverts, we thrive in our own little company and don’t need much stimulation to feel good.
We enjoy alone time and it’s absolutely necessary for us to handle life in the best possible way.
For me, I need at least an hour a day with my computer (blog), a book, podcast or my journal/planner.
I find that the perfect company is someone you can hang out with in complete silence.
3. DON’T FEAR THE FOMO
“I don’t hate people, I just feel better when they aren’t around.”
– Charles Bukowski
Ah the FOMO. I used to struggle with fear of missing out on things ALL THE TIME until I finally embraced the real introvert in me.
It’s ok to not be everywhere with everyone all the time.
Introverts find peace in spending time with themselves and don’t bother using up energy on things that they are not apart of or attending.
So why should they?
I tend to stay away from big social gatherings and if I do need to do some mingling on a Saturday or there is an event I absolutely need to go to, it’s crucial for me to refuel and recharge for hours, a day or whatever the universe will give me.
Social gatherings with meaningless chit-chat can feel so draining.
It’s also super freeing to be able to say “no, thank you – I have plans with myself tonight” or just simply “no” without having to make an excuse.
We should all get better at saying no to things we don’t really want to do, and most importantly, not feel bad about it.
Just say no 🙂
4. More Focused
Introverts are not easily distracted.
We are able to put our minds into creative or strategic work without getting out of the zone.
The creative work possesses us completely.
And this way, introverts (I believe) are capable of getting more things done in a shorter period of time.
We also have a “special” access and understanding of our inner worlds, which comes in handy when solving a problem or when the focus is needed.
The attention span of an introvert is thought to be much bigger than an extrovert because introverts devote their time wisely and avoid social distractions.
They take on a task and immerse themselves completely in it.
5. GREAT LISTENERS
“Introverts listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror for small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”
– Susan Cain
You talk – we listen.
Introverts are generally great listeners, they focus and really take in what the other person is saying.
They process things so intently and due to the fact that they choose the people, they decide to have deep conversations with wisely.
Introverts don’t just jump on into a conversation and count down the seconds until it’s their turn to speak.
They are looked upon as receptive and reliable.
It’s safe to tell your secrets to your introvert friend 🙂
6. NO TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
“When you’re an introvert like me and you’ve been lonely for a while, and then you find someone who understands you, you become really attached to them. It’s a real release.”
– Lana Del Rey
Introverts are picky about who they have around them.
They choose their relationships wisely.
Quality over quantity.
Toxic relationships feel draining and are such a waste of time.
Introverts get this and don’t spend any time on people who do not give them a good vibe.
For me, this is especially true. My intuition is quite good and I tend to get a “feeling” for people quite quickly. I am not fast to judge, however, I am quick to pick up on energies and if we float in the same boat or not.
This goes for everybody – extrovert or not…
Free yourself from toxic relationships that do not add value to your life.
I am slowly starting to understand the real importance of this aspect.
In my teens and early 20s, I always thought, the more friends the merrier – but as it turns out – the case is quite the opposite.
We all have those friends that we always plan to see, get coffee, get that drink and catch up but never do.
Go through your friendships, reflect and think about who you want in your life.
Time is precious, so spend it with people who bring you joy.
Introverts are especially good at this skill.
7. MEANINGFUL CONVERSATIONS
“Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people. We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.”
– Dr. Laurie Helgoe
Yes to meaningful conversations and long night discussions about life.
No thank you to mingling and meaningless chit-chat.
Introverts find small talk absolutely useless and may I say boring.
I don’t think anyone really enjoys small talk – but this is especially true for introverts.
Introverts are deep thinkers who seek deep conversations about real things and wish to get to the core.
In the line of work that I do, this type of mingling is sometimes necessary and it can be quite exhausting at times.
But I push through and make sure I have time set aside to refuel and recharge.
Find peace in the silence.
For introverts, there are no awkward silences.
8. GOAL SETTERS & GETTERS
Because of the solitude introverts embrace, they are able to get things done, set impossible goals and actually devote themselves completely to the task and goals at hand.
In addition to this, introverts are really good at avoiding distractions and can dodge social situations which can easily cause a conflict between actually setting and reaching a goal.
This is a real strength when pursuing dreams.
9. OBSERVANT, CURIOUS & TAKE NOTICE
“Don’t underestimate me because I’m quiet. I know more than I say, think more than I speak and observe more than you know.”
– Michaela Chung
Wow – 3 in 1 – let’s go.
Introverts are curious and observant and really take notice of the world around them.
They take everything in – enjoy the peace and solitude nature brings and embrace the little things in life.
For me, this is definitely my cuppa coffee in the morning and the little daily piece of chocolate that goes with it.
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Also, I’d love for you to devote 20 minutes of your day and watch this AMAZING TED talk by Susan Cain, where she explains the real power of being an introvert. Susan exudes so much love and warmth and it’s truly an inspiring talk all introverts should watch.
Let me know how if you recognize yourself in this article in the comments below.